In recent times, the percentage of men and women that have had or have been contemplating having affairs outside their marriage in a clandestine manner. Why is this phenomenon on the rise is the subject of a totally different treatise. The reasons for having extra marital affairs are plenty and varied; some claim that they have valid reasons and some do it simply out of a burning desire for someone that they have met either at work or at some social place.

Regardless of why the extra marital affair took place or is being planned, the question at hand is if divorce an unavoidable consequence or can it be averted. Divorce causes tremendous mental upheaval and if children are involved in the marriage, then it is very hard on the children also. In addition to mental agony, there are numerous financial implications of divorce and a tremendous amount of time spent in getting through the procedural steps.

So, is divorce inevitable after an affair? It is the opinion of the author that divorce CAN be averted even after an affair. There is a tremendous amount of adjustment and reassurance levels that have to be put in place after an unapproved affair. The victim of the affair, be it the husband or the wife has to be made comfortable with the fact that future relapses will not occur. And above all there has got to be an understanding that yes a mistake has happened and the cheating party has to apologize sincerely from the bottom of the heart and confirm that both the husband and wife will get back on track and be back in the business of raising the family and paying attention to the children and to each other.

If the above steps are taken then divorce can be avoided and peace can once again return to the household.

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